{"page":"\u003clink rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https://lessonplanet.com/assets/packs/css/resources-572d6a42.css\" /\u003e\n\u003clink rel=\"stylesheet\" href=\"https://lessonplanet.com/assets/packs/css/lp_boclips_stylesheets-f4d0de30.css\" media=\"all\" /\u003e\n\u003cdiv data-title='How To Stop the Cycle of Negative Relationships' data-url='/boclips/videos/6509bfcbaf72c9416ed59b01' data-video-url='/boclips/videos/6509bfcbaf72c9416ed59b01' id='bo_player_modal'\u003e\n\u003cdiv class='boclips-resource-page modal-dialog panel-container'\u003e\n\u003cdiv class='react-notifications-root'\u003e\u003c/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv class='rp-header'\u003e\n\u003cdiv class='rp-type'\u003e\n\u003ci aria-hidden='true' class='fai fa-regular fa-circle-play'\u003e\u003c/i\u003e\nVideo\n\u003c/div\u003e\n\u003ch1 class='rp-title' id='video-title'\u003e\nHow To Stop the Cycle of Negative Relationships\n\u003c/h1\u003e\n\u003cdiv class='rp-actions'\u003e\n\u003cdiv class='mr-1'\u003e\n\u003ca class=\"btn btn-success\" data-posthog-event=\"Signup: LP Signup Activity\" data-posthog-location=\"body_link_boclips\" data-remote=\"true\" href=\"/subscription/new\"\u003e\u003cspan\u003e\u003cspan\u003eGet Free Access\u003c/span\u003e\u003cspan class=\"\"\u003e for 10 Days\u003c/span\u003e\u003cspan\u003e!\u003c/span\u003e\u003c/span\u003e\u003c/a\u003e\n\u003c/div\u003e\n\u003c/div\u003e\n\u003c/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv class='rp-body'\u003e\n\u003cdiv class='rp-info'\u003e\n\u003cdiv aria-label='Hide resource details' class='rp-hide-info' role='button' tabindex='0'\u003e\u0026times;\u003c/div\u003e\n\u003ci aria-label='Expand resource details' class='rp-expand-info fai fa-solid fa-up-right-and-down-left-from-center' role='button' tabindex='0'\u003e\u003c/i\u003e\n\u003ci aria-label='Compress resource details' class='rp-compress-info fai fa-solid fa-down-left-and-up-right-to-center' role='button' tabindex='0'\u003e\u003c/i\u003e\n\u003cdiv class='rp-rating'\u003e\n\u003cspan class='resource-pool'\u003e\n\u003cspan class='pool-label'\u003ePublisher:\u003c/span\u003e\n\u003cspan class='pool-name'\u003e\n\u003cspan class='text'\u003e\u003ca data-publisher-id=\"30356011\" href=\"/search?publisher_ids%5B%5D=30356011\"\u003eCurated Video\u003c/a\u003e\u003c/span\u003e\n\u003c/span\u003e\n\u003c/span\u003e\n\u003c/div\u003e\n\u003cdiv class='rp-description'\u003e\n\u003cspan class='short-description'\u003eThere’s a concept in psychoanalytic theory called the corrective emotional experience. The classical definition of the corrective emotional experience is that it’s a therapeutic process where the therapist helps you experience what was...\u003c/span\u003e\n\u003cspan class='full-description hide'\u003eThere’s a concept in psychoanalytic theory called the corrective emotional experience. The classical definition of the corrective emotional experience is that it’s a therapeutic process where the therapist helps you experience what was previously a painful relationship by making it a healing relationship. The therapist does this by reenacting certain dynamics with you and then reacts to you in a way that is positive and different from what you expect. And when you continue to get these responses that are positive and opposite of what you’re used to, you began to heal by having an experience in real time that corrects what happened in the past. \u003cbr/\u003e \u003cbr/\u003e That’s the classic way this concept was defined and used with therapists who practice psychoanalytic therapy. But there’s been an evolution in how the term is conceptualized. It can be thought of more broadly as an explanation for why you seem to be attracted to the same kind of negative relationship – this can even bleed into your close friendships. \u003cbr/\u003e \u003cbr/\u003e This term comes from object-relations theory where people are called objects. And it’s about how you relate to central objects in your life like your mother. The idea of the corrective emotional experience CAN refer to the process of a person seeking a negative object or relationship, for the purpose of reenacting the negative dynamic in a way that allows you to correct the original negative experience.\u003cbr/\u003e \u003cbr/\u003e In this video I give you three examples to illustrate how this works.\u003cbr/\u003e \u003cbr/\u003e What can you do about this? \u003cbr/\u003e You start with examining the negative relationships and asking the following questions. \u003cbr/\u003e In these relationships what does the person do to you that makes you feel bad about yourself? It could be what they don't do, like she never complements you. \u003cbr/\u003e Then look at your relationship with your parents or your close caretaker. Which parent has a stronger impact on you? \u003cbr/\u003e Who are you closest to? \u003cbr/\u003e Which one who did you have a bad relationship with and why? 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